A Stand-up Guy
Long, long ago – in the dark ages of junior high – one lesson was firmly implanted in my mind by our P.E. coach, Mr. Jorgensen. This was the time when the seventh-grade boys would be taken aside for sex education.
We were fortunate to live in a reasonably progressive town, Long Beach, California, where such things could be dealt with on a rational basis.
So, one morning to titters and some surreptitious giggles, a few elbow jabs to the ribs of a nearby friend, we boys were assembled in the weight room of the gym. Of course, all us guys were already experts on the subject – we thought. All sorts of salacious tidbits had been passed around the playground and on the playing fields. But interest was piqued to the max. Now we were going to get the real low-down
Mr. Jorgenson was a no-nonsense coach. He literally once threw a screw-up boy out of our history class – without first opening the door. We could tell by the look on his face and stern demeanor, that this was more serious an occasion than we expected. More serious than his usual about sportsmanship.
After introducing the subject and what we would be covering, Mr. Jorgenson asked one boy, a kid named Joe, a very pointed question: “Joe, how many sperm does it take to make a baby? – Joe, how many?”
There had been rumor that Joe might have gotten a girl in trouble, and this was the confirmation. What Joe did not comprehend was that he, also, was in deep trouble. They both were.
As Jesse Jackson would admonish kids from the hood, “Babies have no business making babies.” What girl, what boy, is mature enough to bring a baby into adulthood. Not a one!
Definitely not our classmate Joe. To him, this baby was just an unfortunate occurrence that really didn’t concern him all that much. A throw-away kid. Joe was not prepared In the slightest to care for a pet dog, let alone a child. Joe was a complete screw-up. Totally incapable of taking responsibility.
This was, indeed, a most memorable sex education class as we boys sat there in stunned silence — Serious stuff! Way beyond smirks, playground wisdom and tales. I’m sure none of us ever forgot that afternoon session on the gym floor.
I sometimes wonder that ever happened to that little tyke. My fondest prayer is that he or she was put up for adoption and taken in by some responsible family. By adults!
Today we read in Matthew’s gospel of another Joe, Joseph if you will. Like our junior high Joe, he is to discover the shocking news – he’s going to be a father.
Even if you’re married and forty, I can tell you that this is most disconcerting news. Yes, we were hoping for a baby. But when the reality of a flesh-and-blood child dawned on me, I was overcome with doubts. “Am I ready to be a father? Will I be a good enough parent? A supportive enough husband?” This is scary business. I’m not ready. Even having had courses in early childhood education, I instantly forgot everything. I wasn’t ready.
Imagine Joseph in a small village with loose tongues and fingers wagging. He must have been beside himself. Did he have the courage to still be seeing Mary? Was he up to being emotional support for her? No, he was shaking in his sandals. He’d gone all soggy like a wet meringue.
“Her husband Joseph, being a righteous man and unwilling to expose her to public disgrace, planned to dismiss her quietly.”
I’m sure he was about to get out of Dodge quietly before the scandal became the talk of the entire village. This brief announcement of Matthew gives us absolutely no hint of the mental anguish of both parties to this announcement. We can only guess.
“But just when he had resolved to do this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife, for the child conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.”
Now we don’t know with any certainty the nature of this holy message. Was it conscience, character, upbringing, a listening to the inner Spirit? …but in any case, Joseph does not bug out on Mary. He stays and raises Jesus to adulthood. Perhaps even taught him the carpentry trade.
Joseph is the sacrament of God’s steadfastness. He was faithful to the task at hand. He and Mary were in this together. Faithful as God is faithful.
Quite a departure from our first Joe, who as far as any of us knew, never saw the girl again. That episode only turned out the be the first of Joe’s many troubles – another story to be told.
Mary’s Joseph turned out to be a righteous man, a stand-up guy. Faithful for the long haul, though he soon drops out of the pages of scripture. He remains the paradigm of God’s faithfulness. For that reason, the Roman church celebrates a feast day for the Holy Family.
Last Sunday we focused on a stand-up woman – Mary. Today we’ll focus on a stand-up guy – and all the stand-up guys God sends each and every day.
This week, December 14, ten years ago, the anniversary of the Sandy Hook school mass shooting, was featured on news programs all across the county.
Senator Chris Murphy of Massachusetts, another stand-up guy, spoke on where we are as a nation. He, like St. Joseph, has not forsaken his call of leadership on the issues of military weapons of mass destruction in our communities.
Senator Murphy through an insightful op ed piece speaks to the mental health issues that are producing such tragedy in our communities. In spite of all the electronic connections, we are producing a generation sucked into the dark hole of loneliness and despair. We now have an epidemic of suicides.
Chris writes, ”Growing up, my identity was strongly connected to the town I lived in, Wethersfield, Connecticut, and the “localness” of my daily experience reinforced that identity. For instance, I fondly remember my local grocer, who slipped me a free slice of American cheese every time I visited the deli counter with my grandparents.” That local grocer is now gone, replaced by a Walmart, Sam’s Club, and Amazon. Not much human contact needed at all.
“Loneliness is driving people to dark, dangerous places, and those young, white men carrying tiki torches are only the tip of a giant iceberg of isolated, angry people whose search for meaning might lead them to a seething antisemitic or racist mob.”
Senator Murphy is willing to issue a stand-up clarion call – a warning on what we are doing to ourselves in service to the almighty dollar, not to mention the worship of a gun culture. The cheapest goods at those big box stores, are now costing us plenty – our loss of connection to each other. The glue that holds society together.
More than Senator Murphy, how many other stand-up men have stood by their families and community of Sandy Hook to bear witness to the sorrow of their loss? God’s gift of solidarity to us all.
One husband writes: “My wife, Mary Sherlach, was the school psychologist at Sandy Hook Elementary School…It has never surprised me that she died while confronting the shooter in the front hallway.” It takes real courage to relive those tragic moments – to bear witness to one’s own grief, lest the rest of us forget.
Like Joseph, this man did not bug out, but has become a part of “The Sandy Hook Promise.” Like Joseph, this man is staying put, right where God has planted him. He is a token of God’s faithfulness, God’s solidarity with us.
Another stand-up guy is Lawrence O’Donnell with his promotion of school desks for children in Malawi. It’s the K.I.N.D Fund, Kids in Need of Desks. Every year during this season he has school children expressing their thanks to the American people for promoting their education. The K.I.N.D. fund, in cooperation with UNICEF, has these last few years been promoting girls’ high school tuition. Because high school education is not provided by the state in this impoverished nation, girls graduate at half the rate of boys.
One of those young high school girls I featured in a sermon a couple of years ago, Joyce Chisale, recited her moving poem, “Little by Little.” Joyce is now fulfilling her dream, attending her first year in medical school. Lawrence O’Donnell and his team have made this possible for Joyce and many other girls like her in Malawi – with the dollars sent in by a lot of us. In highlighting girls like Joyce, Lawrence is certainly a stand-up guy living out the Catholic social teachings of his faith. A token of God’s faithful promise.
Adam Kinzinger is another guy, cut of the same cloth. Like Liz Cheney, he has chosen country over party – sacrificing any hope of a future political career. His willingness as a Republican to serve on the January 6th Committee has greatly benefited our nation. He has spoken truth to the insurrectionists and seditionists in his own party. He, like Rep. Cheney, must be accompanied by armed security agents at all times.
This last week he spoke the bottom-line truth of that fateful day, January 6th.
Rep. Adam Kinzinger (R-Ill.) said Wednesday that former President Trump is “absolutely guilty” of a crime surrounding the Jan. 6, 2021, riot at the U.S. Capitol.
“I think he’s guilty of a crime. I mean, look, he knew what he did. We’ve made that clear. He knew what was happening prior to January 6th. He pressured the Justice Department officials to say, ‘Hey, just say the election was stolen and leave the rest to me.’ And then the Republicans all need to put the stamp of approval on it,” Kinzinger told CNN’s Jake Tapper on “The Lead.”[1]
He did not walk away from his country in its hour of need. He did not walk away from the truth. He did not walk away from decency. He is to be counted among the righteous. A token of God’s steadfastness, keeping the faith.
We should also include Dr. Anthony Fauci in this honor roll. He has steadfastly stood by our nation as we have endured one of the greatest medical challenges in our lifetime. And for his efforts, he has been vilified and received death threats. He also needs an armed guard to carry on his duties. As he retires after many long years of service, no words can express the gratitude we own him for his service. Dr. Fauci, you are indeed a stand-up guy. It would have been easy to just walk away under the deluge of the scurrilous attacks on your integrity — but you have stood firm, a token of God’s steadfastness and solidarity.
This year as we come ever closer to that manger of promise, let us remember and give thanks for faithful Joseph, standing with Mary in spite of her ostracism, in spite of the threats of Herod. And for all the stand-up guys who have followed in his footsteps. Who have changed diapers, comforted tears, held their families close – and stood with our nation in her hour of need.
Inspired by, and grateful to paraphrase Joyce Chisale’s poem, “Little by Little.”
Little by little we follow that star-lit path to a humble manger bed.
Little by little might that Holy Child takes up residence in our hearts.
Little by little, might our lives be tokens of solidarity and steadfastness
with the destitute
with those who thirst for an education
with those seeking shelter and a hot meal
with those who work for a more just world
Little by little might that Christ Child be born anew in us. Little by little. Amen.
[1] Julia Mueller, “Kinzinger says Trump ‘absolutely guilty’ of crimes ahead of Jan. 6,” The Hill, December 14, 2022.
December 18, 2022, Advent 4
“A Stand-up Guy”
The Rev. Dr. John C. Forney, St. Francis Episcopal Mission
Isaiah 7:10-16; Psalm 80:1-7, 16-18; Romans 1:1-7; Matthew 1: 18-25
Channeling Your Inner Mary
The first church I served right out of seminary was actually two. It was part of a two-point charge served when I was under the United Methodist system. Both were in the Upper Mojave Desert, about twenty-five miles apart on Highway 395 — Inyokern and Randsburg, a stone’s throw from Death Valley.
One of my new acquaintances out there inquired early on, “Forney, what did you do to the bishop to get sent out here?” Another friend in Temple City announced my appointment from the pulpit one Sunday in church we had been attending, “John’s finally found out where his appointment is going to be: Unicorn and Rancid.”
The smallest church of the two, Randsburg United Methodist, had only four members left and my job was to collect a bequest given to the church, then close the place up. This bequest had been tied up in court due to the sloth of the attorney handling it – he finally ended up being disbarred, but that’s another story. Well, this thing dragged out and out. Soon we had far more than four members. Now, the problem was, the water had been shut off several months before I had arrived. I couldn’t imagine anything more depressing than a hot, dusty church with no water – no water, in the middle of a scorching summer out in the Mojave Desert!
We absolutely had to get the water turned on again. Absolutely!
The words of Isaiah are a thirsting for restoration, for a return to the gates of Zion. That all which is amiss be restored.
Yes, Lord, let the dry land be glad! Let the desert rejoice and blossom!
“Then the eyes of the blind shall be opened, and the ears of the deaf unstopped…the lame shall leap like a dear…for waters shall break forth in the wilderness.” Lord, let it be! Yes, turn on your mighty water spigot.
A highway shall be prepared, straight to glory – “It shall be called the Holy Way…no traveler, not even fools, shall go astray. The ransomed of the Lord shall return, and come to Zion with singing…” A straight shot glory attack! That’s what Isaiah’s about.
This vision of return from Babylonian Captivity is one of restoration. All the folks dancing and singing on that Glory Road home.
In the holy city of Jerusalem God’s people shall live in solidarity with one another. Open the gates of justice for this homecoming. “Sorrow and sighing shall flee away.” The lion shall lie down with the lamb – though the lamb might not get much sleep.
For much of our history, for a lot of our people, America has been a barren desert of sorrow and sighing – as they languished under the slave master’s lash. Beginning in 1619, we robbed an entire people of any future. Right from our inception as a nation. Right through the Jim Crow laws of exclusion. And hooded night riders.
Our present economic system locks the vast majority of our people out of any decent livelihood. It’s a barren system that saddles young people with tens of thousands of dollars of college debt, especially those from black and brown communities – and those from rural poverty. And one wonders why our young people have given up on capitalism? To them it looks to be a parched future of little hope. No righteousness to be found here.
It’s a ruinous and barren political system that strips workers of the right to any meaning of union representation, as did President Joe Biden and his Democratic congress to our railway workers this past week.
These railroad companies are making billions – the highest profits ever – and their CEOs are among the highest paid in the nation, raking in millions every year – and we can’t even afford a measly seven days of paid sick leave!? Shame on you! Get real, people. Time for our inner Mary.
And, for the most part, the church remains silent in the face of such massive inequality, such gross injustice.
Definitely — time for our Inner Mary!
Not that statue in some churches, not that picture on parish walls of a demure, bashful servile girl in pastel blues. As harmless as a Cocker Spaniel. No! Not that Mary.
I’m talking about a Mary that looks more like Harriet Tubman, Conductor to Freedom on the Underground Railroad — more like Rosie the Riveter — more like Katy Porter with her white board — more like Rosa Parks firmly planted in that bus seat – more like Octavia Butler with visions of our future swirling in her brain — more like Toni Morrison with pen on fire writing Beloved — more like fearless, undaunted Mother Carrie Oval, my predecessor out there in that barren desert of Randsburg and Inyokern who wouldn’t give up in the face of a sexist boycott of her first sermon – all those women of steel and moral purpose who kept on coming. Women who persist! Yeah, throw in Elizabeth Warren, Liz Cheney and Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez. And Mother Jones, to boot!
When Mary is confronted by the Angel Gabriel and given the terrifying news that she will become pregnant – pregnant without her consent, pregnant like so many young girls in Ukraine who are the rape victims of Russian invaders, pregnant like so many young girls in families of poverty with no access to birth control — Mary does not acquiesce quietly. No demure, little, nice, quiet girl she.
She, as Mike Kinman once put it in a most memorable sermon – Mary takes one step back and says to that intrusive messenger, “If this is the way it’s gonna be…Just hold my beer and watch this!’”
With that, she cuts loose with the Magnificat – she belts out one of the most radical proclamations of social justice in all of scripture. If I’m part of this plan that I did not ask for, then let ‘er rip. You’re going to be absolutely astounded at what God’s going to accomplish through this child to be born of my womb.
Yes, indeed. Hold my beer and watch this!
“His mercy is on them that fear him
throughout all generations.
“He hath showed strength with his arm;
he hath scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts.”
Yeah, I’m talkin’ to, big shots.
“He hath put down the mighty from their seat;
And hath exalted the humble and meek.”
“He hath filled the hungry with good things,
and the rich he hath sent empty away.”
You fat cats, your shelf life has expired. There’s a new sheriff in town.
Privilege and preference, all turned upside down – this is the Lord’s doing and marvelous it is in God’s holy sight.
It’s time this Advent we channel this inner Mary – channel her righteous indignation at injustice, channel her persistence, channel her loyalty to this holy work of God. Channel her loyalty to the end, even to the foot of that tree of shame and sorrow.
In our Advent study by Jill Duffield, Advent in Plain Sight, uses the metaphor of a gate to open the mysteries and promise of this season. Through the gate of Advent, we are beckoned to a world transformed. We are invited to lives of new promise and opportunity.
This last week I had the opportunity to present to the chair of the board of Housing Claremont the Helen Meyers Achievement Award, a recognition of persons and organizations that have made our town of Claremont a better place to live. This group and their leader Ilsa Lund are channeling their Inner Mary. Her song lives in them.
Housing Claremont, through its advocacy for permanent supportive housing for the indigent, mentally ill, the homeless, the addicted, is a gate through which we in our city can pass on God’s promise of full inclusion.
Claremont, like many suburban communities in Southern California, has a sordid history of exclusion. Redlining and restrictive covenants in property deeds were part and parcel of a racist past designed to keep Black people out. Actually, also Mexican-Americans, Chinese, Japanese – to keep anyone who was not “white bread” out of here. We were a “sundown community.” If you’re not white, you’d better be gone by sundown. If you knew what’s good for you.
Housing Claremont and their chair, Ilsa Lund, has striven mightily to bring Claremont into conformance with our highest Constitutional ideals. A rule of law and ethic where “All means All.” Full stop. End of Story. Magnificat incarnate!
They have met a wall of opposition in their advocacy of Larkin Place, a development of supportive housing for the “least of these.” Opposition comes right out of the same mentality that gave us that redlining and those restrictive covenants.
Yes, the opponents say, we believe in housing for the homeless. But house them elsewhere. Yes, “Housing ends Homelessness.” That’s true, and, by all means, help these people. But help them someplace else. Anyplace else, but NOT HERE!
There’s a wonderful spiritual, “Twelve Gates to the City.” The righteousness of Mary’s Magnificat proclaims the gates open. Open the gates of opportunity and inclusion, the gates of justice and righteousness to our unhoused neighbors living right here on the streets and in the vacant lots of our city. Open the gates this Advent!
It has been said that eleven o’clock on Sunday morning is the most segregated hour in America. Too often the gates of full inclusion to our churches are shut tight to those we fear. Pablum is served — not Mary’s Magnificat. Open wide the Gates to God’s righteous Word this Advent.
Open wide the gate to economic fairness to our railroad employees. Let go of grievance and privilege. America is not a zero-sum game where winner takes all. That’s not the vision. Open the gates of opportunity this Advent.
Standing outside those gates are the same Three Strange Angels who visited Abraham and Sarah. Admit them! Standing at the gate of the soul of this nation is the angel who visited Mary – Admit, admit that Advent Messenger that justice be reborn and righteousness find a manger bed.
As with Mary, the tidings may terrify. The future may look dark and foreboding. Though we be uncertain as to what sort of message this might be — at the very gates of our hearts stands blessing. Admit the Holy Messenger. Admit.
Let the waters of righteousness flow like a mighty stream that the deserts of frozen hearts and closed communities blossom. And joy shall come to the wilderness. All the angels in heaven shall gather in concert to proclaim, “JOY to the WORLD!” — “And to the Fishes of the Deep Blue Sea!”
Oh, and by the way, we finally did get that water back on at that little outpost of the Jesus Movement out there in Randsburg. Amen.
December 11, 2022, Advent 3
Gaudete Sunday
“Channeling Your Inner Mary”
The Rev. Dr. John C. Forney, St. Francis Episcopal Mission
Isaiah 35:1-10; Psalm 146:4-9; Canticle 3, BCP[1]; Matthew 11:2-11
[1] The Book of Common Prayer, according to the use of the Episcopal Church, 1979.
Wakee, Wakee
When the boys were little tykes, my morning job was to get them out of bed and make sure they were dressed for school. I’d come into their room chanting sing-song, “Wakee, wakee,” all the while flipping the light switch on and off. At first, I’d hear a few grunts and groans, then “Go away.” As this was an Alaska morning, it would still be pitch dark outside. I’m positive, the boys probably would have considered it a much more obtrusive, more obnoxious wake-up call had I sung to them.
Once I had the fire going in the wood stove and Jai had breakfast served, attitudes somewhat improved.
We’ve just celebrated Thanksgiving, our national holiday I’ve always considered the lead-in to Advent. Much of everything comes to a standstill as families and friends plan gatherings all across the nation – good preparation for the hush of Advent.
Jai and I finished making the turkey dressing the other night. It’s an old family recipe, dating back at least to the time her mother stopped being responsible for this meal and we had to scrounge through several cookbooks and figure out what stuffing we might like. No oysters. No giblets.
As we settled into the couch to watch Judy Woodruff anchor the PBS Newshour, the stuffing ready for tomorrow’s feast, I noticed Jai making frequent trips out to the kitchen, snitching bits and pieces of the stuffing we had just labored over. I told her that I thought I was wondering if I should call her brother in Anaheim and tell him that he’d better come over right now and get a bite there while there was still some left.
The smell of our sausage-apple stuffing still wafting through the house is my Advent preparation.
Prepare — the call of Advent – Wakee, Wakee. I’ll light up my purple Advent lights that adorn the eves of our house this Sunday. I’ll get the UNICEF Christmas cards ordered and get to work on our Christmas letter.
Today the summons from our scripture readings is, “Wake up, for Christ’s sake!” Yes, for Christ is nigh upon us.
“About that day and hour no one knows…For as the days of Noah were, so will be the coming of the Son of Man. For as in those days before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day Noah entered the ark, and they knew nothing until the flood came and swept them all away, so too will be the coming of the Son of Man.”[1]
The first Followers of the Way believed that the END was indeed upon them. Within the lifetime of many still living, Christ would come with all his angels and wrap up history. The First Sunday of Advent concerns Christ’s return, to be born anew in our hearts. It is also about our final destination, the summation of all creation – the Final Day.
One of my favorite hymns we sang in Sunday school as a youngster was straight out of this end-time theology, “When the Roll is Called Upon Yonder.” Even us boys sang it with gusto and true belief that our name would be announced on that Last Day.
That understanding is the theology of Matthew’s gospel. Stay awake! You never know!
By the time Luke writes his gospel, the community of the Jesus Movement has settled in for the long haul. That is why Luke concludes his gospel with the Book of Acts, the story of the spread of the Jesus Movement. In little communities of believers then scattered across the Roman Empire. Luke’s theology is a theology of “the meantime.” While we’re waiting – to be about Christ’s work. To be about what makes for community and life abundant. Those are our baptismal orders.
But the idea of an imminent end time is still with our secular folks. It comes to us in that favorite Christmas song, “Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town.” Yeah, just like the end-time rollcall, “Santa’s making a list and checking it twice, gonna find out who’s naughty and nice.” And, you’d better watch out!
Although, I discovered that “naughty” was usually more fun – until it wasn’t. Some of our churches still terrify little kids with the most horrendous stories of that Final Day.
My mother would tell me how as a little girl she woke up one night with a start. Right outside her window was a huge harvest moon. About that same instant, a freight train had come barreling through town, sounding its mournful whistle.
This was it. The angel Gabriel is come. Christ has returned.
She, her heart pounding, her breath rapid, coming in gasps, the hairs on the back of her neck standing straight up – she flung herself out of bed and ran shrieking through the dark, “Gabriel’s here. Wake up. Wake up. It’s the END.
And of course, the whole family indeed did wake up. And it took some while for them to settle her back down. That was one of Grandma’s oft told stories. Being a Christian Scientist, however, she had no truck with such doctrine.
So, how does the end come? What are its signs, its harbingers?
My evangelical friends were convinced that the forerunner of the End Time was the Antichrist. The candidate might be Hitler, Pol Pot, or some other heinous malefactor. I was told by one acquaintance it was the Democrats. Others – the Republicans.
My mother’s side of the family believed it might be FDR – “He fired your grandfather.” At that time Grandpa had been the postmaster of their home town, Lodi, California. Grandpa had been appointed by President Hoover. Democratic ascendency was the clear sign that the End was near.
We read in our papers of all sorts of imminent catastrophes. Portents of the End?
PFAS chemicals. Had you heard of them? They’re the chemicals produced in making such things as Teflon, and firefighting foam. They’re in cosmetics, the film that makes rain bounce off your jacket – “better living through chemistry” – until it isn’t.[2]
They re the cause of cancer, pregnancy complications, unhealthy blood lipids. Definitely, NOT better living. Even in the most minute doses, this stuff is damaging. Does the end come when we all poison ourselves to death through these amazing concoctions?
Wakee, wakee.
We are told that male sperm counts have been decreasing since the 1970s at about 1.6 percent per year. Since the year 2000 the decline has accelerated to 2.6 per cent per year.[3] This as a world-wide phenomenon.
The end for the human race? Is this toxic brew of chemicals the ultimate birth control? And, folks, it’s not just us. What about the deer and the antelope out there playing – playing until they’re also extinct?
Wakee, wakee!
Or, maybe we just all shoot ourselves to death in a final OK Corral blaze of gunfire? In the US we are running more than one mass shooting per week. This week — Walmart in Virginia, Club Q in Colorado Springs. Four people were killed at a marijuana farm in Oklahoma on Sunday; a mother and her three children were shot dead in Richmond, Virginia…
Thanksgiving week has seen 22 people killed and 44 injured, all through the barrel of a gun”
Donya Prioleau, a worker at the store, captured the horror and tragedy of the Walmart shooting.
“Somebody’s baby, mom, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, grandparents…whoever did not make it home tonight! Thanksgiving is a holiday we celebrate with friends and family…there are those who cannot. I can not unsee what happened in that break room.”[4]
Folks, what else should we expect in a nation awash in a sea of weapons of war, where we’re all armed to the teeth? What else should we expect with the airwaves flooded with hateful invective and politicians and many churches preaching the same intolerance and hate?
Wakee, wakee!
These are senseless deaths. Senseless, because we as a society have lost our senses. Stalin was quoted as remarking, “A million deaths is a statistic, one death is a tragedy.” Well, the whole thing is a bloody tragedy. And this is how it ends for too many of us here in America.
These folks at Club Q were just out for a good time in what they thought to be a safe place. Then the ominous sound of “pop, pop pop,” as bodies began fall to the floor. Five killed and some twenty-five injured.
The co-owners of this gay nightclub, choking back tears, told reporters that “the people here are family.” This was their safe space. Now, no longer. This was how it ended for those five. Is this how it ends for any notion of a civil society?
Wakee, wakee. Don’t ask for whom the hearse comes. It comes for America – as the mourning bell tolls.
In the meantime…in the meantime. “Christ has come, Christ is come, Christ will come again.” This we proclaim at every celebration of the Eucharist.
We cannot stop the tragedy of our days. That doesn’t mean we sit back and eat bon-bons.
Christ in a paramedic’s jacket is among us. Christ of the soup-line is present. Christ in classroom and break room. Christ in friend, gay or straight, near to comfort.
“Put on the armor of light,” St. Paul urges. Just as two patrons of Club Q took down and subdued the 22-year-old shooter, your call to be Christ to your neighbor may come at any time. You know neither the hour nor the day. In your action, whatever it may be, is your liberation — is your step into the “Eternal Now.”
In the daily scrum of news, Christ is present in a thousand disguises. Motioning each to join as well, to join in the splendor of these days, our days. Christ in us and we in Christ. God’s purpose working itself out to the end of days, the Last Day.
In the meantime? James Baldwin said it so well in his essay, “Nothing Personal:”
“For nothing is fixed, forever and forever and forever, it is not fixed; The earth is always shifting, the light is always changing, the sea does not cease to grind down rock. Generations do not cease to be born, and we are responsible to them because we are the only witnesses they have. The sea rises, the light fails, lovers cling to each other, and children cling to us. The moment we cease to hold each other, the moment we break faith with one another, the sea engulfs us and the light goes out.”[5]
Yes, we have great responsibility to keep hold of each other, to keep hold of this splendorous blue-green planet of ours – for we can also do great damage.
Yet, Christ is our Light. That Light does not go out – the ultimate Advent LED – still shining brightly as ever it did when that star guided those Three Seekers to a manger bed in Bethlehem. As brightly as Jacob’s Star rising. Piercing darkness, our darkness, to the end of our days.
Wakee, wakee. Christ is coming, again and again, playing in a thousand venues. You know neither the day or the hour. Yet the time is always now. Near, and very near. Wakee, wakee. Amen.
[1] Matthew 24:36-39, New Revised Standard Version.
[2] Melba Newsome, Forever Chemicals: Hidden Threats, Science News, November 19, 2022.
[3] “The Decline in Sperm Count,” Focus on Reproduction, the online magazine of ESHRE, the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology, November 22, 2022.
[4] Ed Pilkington, “It’s the Guns: Violent Week in a Deadly Year…,” The Guardian, November 23, 2022.
[5] James Baldwin, The Price of the Ticket, “Nothing Personal” (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 1985), 393.
November 27, 2022, Advent 1
“Wakee, Wakee”
The Rev. Dr. John C. Forney, St. Francis Episcopal Mission
Isaiah 2:1-5; Psalm 122; Romans 13:11-14; Matthew 24:36-44
Remember
Remember. Our faculty of recall is the one characteristic essential to a full humanity.
That is why Alzheimer’s Disease is so devastating. It robs its victims of what makes life precious and worthwhile. Literally it takes the joy out of living, erasing precious memories. Not only is it a tragedy for the afflicted, but for surviving family and friends as well.
But humans are not the only living beings possessing memory. It seems to be present up and down the tree of life. All species have some capacity for remembrance. Even the simplest organisms can learn to navigate primitive avoidance challenges. They remember.
Anyone possessing a pet knows that higher order animals are smart. Look how our cats learn to train us human beings. Get out the leash and our dog knew what was up, as Big B would jump up and down with excitement, tail wagging.
“Ned and Sunny stretch out together on the warm sand. He rests his head on her back, and every so often he might give her an affectionate nudge with his nose. The pair is quiet and, like many long-term couples, they seem perfectly content just to be in each other’s presence.”[1]
What sets them apart from what you might have been assuming is, they’re lizards and they’ve been together for a good number of years, longer than some human couples last.
Shingleback lizards meet to mate with the same partner over many years, one studied couple still making magic over twenty-seven years and going strong. They remember who loves ‘em.
Remember.
One of the most poignant scenes of Holy Week is a request for remembrance. When one thief asks another condemned if he might be remembered in paradise. “Jesus remember me when you come into your kingdom.” And in that moment, he is enfolded into the blessed memory of the Eternal.
Here we have the Exalted One casting aside all privilege as he is dying in agony, and promising to hold another condemned in memory. A very strange “King of the Jews” who for us of low account, he sets aside his crown, as the hymn puts it. Truly, a bitter sweet moment on Calvary’s hill.
Memory and longing are sometimes the only forms of sacramental presence of the love of a lost one left to us. Through memory all living flesh is bound together in one seamless garment of life – past and present. Through memory hope is renewed.
As we gather around Thanksgiving tables in a few days, moments of joy will come to life as family stories are brought to memory and retold. Retold to laughter and to tears.
In our family, the remembered story that always brought laughter was an incident in our living room when I was in the second grade. I had persuaded my mom to help me with this cut-out western village on the back of a Cheerios box. Each box featured a different structure for the village. This one was a cabin of some sort.
Mom wouldn’t do it for me, she made me cut it off the back of the box, and she would fold the buildings and put the correct tabs into the appropriate slots. She began folding and I noticed she wasn’t reading the directions. “Mother! I scolded. “You’re not following the directions,” to which she answered, “Only an idiot would need these directions.”
As she continued to fuss with the building, she finally asked, “Where are those directions?” To which I haughtily replied, “Mother, you said ‘only an idiot would need these directions.’”
And at virtually every family gathering thereafter we would regale all with a retelling, and mother would laugh as hard as any.
In my mind’s eye I still picture her fussing in frustration with the parts of that paper Cheerios building. ¡Presente!
We call this Sunday, “Christ the King Sunday”. In our progressive day, the title seems somehow politically incorrect. This strange king came with no armament, no hoard of soldiers, not to conquer by force.
All prerogatives he set aside. Along the highways he traveled over those days with us – as one of us — he stooped to the lowliest, embraced the sickest, and I suspect, he remembered each from the cross.
He remembered that lad who shared his picnic lunch that fed hundreds. He remembered a shamed woman at a Sumerian well. He remembered the one leprous man healed. And he remembered the other nine who, in their frail humanity failed to show gratitude. And held all ten in compassionate memory. He remembered a desperate old woman who grasped at his garment that she might be healed, and a woman of great faith who returned home to find her daughter healed.
He remembered those of that faithful band of followers who had been with him over that brief span of years. Those dense guys who never quite got the mission, and that precious woman who would anoint his feet, a foretaste of an anointing for burial. And that faithful clutch of women who gathered at the foot of his cross in his dying moments. Probably the last vision of his dimmed eyes before they closed in death.
Remember.
Memory can be painful, damaging. I definitely remembered after touching the hot stove not to do that again.
The memory of failure and past mistakes, while needing healing, can be instructive. “Though your sin be as scarlet, I will wash it away.” It’s about confession and redemption – sometimes a life-long process, making amends and providing reparations. Without the visible acts of contrition, healing remains elusive. Remember and forsake thy foolish, destructive ways. Choose Life!
History is our collective memory. It’s not about dates and battles, or even the towering figures of the moment.
David W. Blight’s book, Race and Reunion: The Civil War in American Memory, narrates the failure of Reconstruction after that conflict. As the years progressed, those memories became politicized, North, South, white and Black.[2]
Those wounds remain raw and open, memory selective. When I was young private, stationed in San Antonio, Texas, I encountered an entirely different memory of our national schism. Not the Civil War but the War of Northern Aggression. It was said to be all about states’ rights, not so much about slavery.
Those freedmen and freedwomen of the South had their own counter narrative to the mythology of a “Lost Cause.” And a precious, healing memory it is. Hear the story of redemption of starvation and death, the story of liberation at a racetrack in Charleston, South Carolina.
After the fall of Charleston, memory bore an incredible burden. At a race track, Planters Race Course, hundreds of Union prisoners of war had been held in the most inhumane conditions. Many died of exposure and disease, having been kept outside in freezing conditions without tents or other shelter. Over 257 had died.[3]
The dead were just unceremoniously dumped in unmarked graves behind the judges’ stand.
Black Charlestonians who witnessed this brutal treatment, the death and disease, remembered. After the capture of the city, they organized to honor those who had sacrificed so much for their freedom — those honored dead, who with their blood had procured their rebirth – slaves no longer but now, free American citizens.
On May Day, 1865, they planned the first Decoration Day at the graveyard of those 257 Union dead, labeled the “Martyrs of the Race Course.”
This is the retelling of that of that bittersweet day of remembrance as narrated by a New York Tribune reporter:
“’The ‘First Decoration Day,’ as this event came to be recognized in some cities in the North, involved an estimated ten thousand people, most of them black former slaves. During April, twenty-eight black men from one of the local churches built a suitable enclosure for the burial ground at the Race Course.”
“At nine o’clock in the morning on May 1, the procession to this special cemetery began as three thousand black schoolchildren (newly enrolled in freedmen’s schools) marched around the Race Course, each with an armload of roses and singing ‘John Brown’s Body.’”
“The children were followed by three hundred black women representing the Patriotic Association, a group organized to distribute clothing and other goods among the freedpeople. The women carried baskets of flowers, wreaths, and crosses to the burial ground. The Mutual Aid Society, a benevolent association of black men, next marched in cadence around the track and into the cemetery, followed by crowds of black and white citizens…
“When all had left, the holy mounds, the tops the sides, and spaces between them – were one mass of flowers, not a speck of earth could be seen…and as the breeze wafted the sweet perfumes from them, outside and beyond…there were few eyes among those who knew the meaning of the ceremony that were not dim with tears of joy.’
“While the adults marched around the graves, the children were gathered in a nearby grove where they sang ‘America,’ ‘We’ll Rally around the Flag,’ and ‘The Star Spangled Banner.’”
After the dedication, some thirty orations were given by Union officers and local black ministers. As picnics were broken out on the grass, “a full brigade of Union infantry, including the Fifty-fourth Massachusetts and the Thirty-fifth and 104th U.S. Colored troops, marched in double column around the martyrs’ graves.”[4]
Remember. Days of sacrifice; days of sweet freedom, days of gratitude – all held together in precious memory.
As Jesus from the cross enfolded the condemned, the desperate, the abandoned in loving memory, we celebrate One who casts aside the prerogatives of divinity to stoop in “Servant Leadership” to enfold us in the same gracious remembrance. Emmanuel, God with us. God in us and we in God. A very strange king, indeed, who hangs from the cross.
In precious memory all flesh is bound together in one “seamless garment of destiny.” — an ever-flowing stream of life. Memory is the sacramental presence of God’s enfolding of all creation unto Godself. Memory, the stuff of pure unadulterated Grace. The sacramental presence of all life wrapped up into the heart of God. You, too, Ned and Sunny. Blessed be!
Might it also be that even the most horrific things we do to one another and to creation find redemption in the memory of God? All restored? I pray so.
You know the hymn: “And when from death I’m free I’ll sing and joyful be, and through eternity I’ll sing on, I’ll sing on, and through eternity I’ll sing on.” – all being folded into the great stream of the Mind of God. Amen.
[1] Hannah Tomasy, “Who Knew Reptiles Could be Such Romantics?” New York Times, Science Section, October 28, 2022.
[2] David W. Blight, Race and Reunion: The Civil War in American Memory (Cambridge, MA: Belknap Press of Harvard University Press, 2001).
[3] Ibid, 69-70.
[4] Ibid, 70.
November 20, 2022, Christ the King Sunday
“Remember”
The Rev. Dr. John C. Forney, St. Francis Episcopal Mission
Jeremiah 23:1-6; Psalm 46; Colossians 1:11-20; Luke 23:33-43
Do Not Lose Hope
Early on in our marriage I learned one thing about my wife. She could be persistent. Once she got an idea in her mind, especially an idea concerning one of my chores, I might as well give in. I knew I would, sooner or later, anyway. This woman is most persistent. Okay, somedays I think, “obsessive.” I know where she got this from — her mother. Mom lived with us the last nine or ten years of her life. I got to know her pretty well. The apple did not fall too far from that tree.
Actually, it’s such women who redeem the planet. They are the embodiment of Jessie Jackson’s chant, “Keep Hope Alive. Keep Hope Alive.”
Luke tells of one such woman. This is a woman who has been wronged by an unjust judge, in fact a bully, and is seeking justice. At all hours of the day and night she is at his door demanding her due. After enough sleepless days, he realizes he’d better attend to her complaint if he is to have any peace. Yeah, I know this man. I commiserate with him.
In such manner we are enjoined by Jesus to be persistent in prayer. “Do not lose hope.”
When I was a young, unformed lad, my heart was set on a pocket knife. Did I mention this to God? You bet I did. Days and weeks went by and nothing happened. When I brought up this need to my parents, I was told that this wasn’t happening. “We’re not sending you armed to school.”
What the persistent women yearned for was not some minor trinket with which to impress her friends. It was JUSTICE. When we pray and work for justice, God will meet us on the picket line and in the polling both. God will work with us to keep hope alive.
Prayer is not some magic manipulation of God or reality. It is not a panacea for our neglect, indifference or stupidity. At best, it is a pouring out of the heart of what is upon our heart at the moment. It’s about what is roiling our soul. It’s about what keeps one awake at night. It’s a wrestling match with God. It is a summons to the Spirit within each of us. A summons to that Spirit within the collective community. As my friend Rabbi Beerman was wont to say, “My prayers are my marching feet.” All our feet.
Call it prayer. Call it meditation. Call it reflection. It is all about the essential inward journey we take to remain human. It’s about the journey we take to stay connected to others – our common life together — and to creation. It’s about the source of all life and what makes the day worth getting out of bed. It’s about putting on our pants one leg at a time and engaging in the existential struggle with God, with Truth.
The small vignette from Genesis of Jacob fleeing for his life, encountering an unknown stranger in the dread of night is a window to our faith vocation. It is to struggle for preservation, to struggle for a way forward. To struggle with the God of all hopefulness.
For Jacob it is a struggle which consumes the evening of despair. In the end is blessing.
“When the man saw that he did not prevail against Jacob, he struck him on the hip socket…he said [to Jacob] ‘Let me go for the day is breaking,’ but Jacob said, ‘I will not let you go, unless you bless me.’ “What is your name?’ And he said, ‘Jacob.’ Then the man said, ‘You shall no longer be called Jacob, but Israel, for you have striven with God and with humans, and have prevailed’…So Jacob called the place Peniel, saying ‘For I have seen God face to face, and yet my life is preserved.’”
This, like unto another story of holy perseverance in our faith tradition. A poor, destitute woman, really – a nobody in the eyes of the male deciders – demands her due, struggles with an obtuse, entitled man of power. In her struggle, she wears him down. That is the holy struggle of Jacob. She prevails and obtains blessing.
To God? Into the wider world? Once prayer has been launched and set loose, who’s to know the end of it? Definitely beyond my pay grade. But I do know my own heart, if I listen closely. If I attend to my needs and the needs of others, the needs and pain of the world – I find a divine reply. Sometimes as clear and distinct as my wife’s summons. If I allow that prayer, that inspiration, that idea to germinate and take root in my heart, it stirs up my gumption. It grabs hold of my date book and my wallet – my hands, heart and mind. That I know is the power of prayer. The courage to change the things I can change and the wisdom of when to stand back.
Without that interior life of prayer and reflection, these days it’s nigh on impossible to keep hope alive. It takes a village to keep hope alive, or at least a community of care. All of us is most often smarter and wiser than any one of us. Jacob did not cross the ford at Jabbok by himself. He took everybody with him. All.
The Children of Light are today up against racial hate and misogyny in many forms, whether on the Los Angeles City Council or those here at Claremont attempting to keep Claremont free of “those people.”
Right now, toxic masculinity is killing the planet. Thomas Friedman correctly notes that Putin’s war is not only a war against Ukraine and the West, it is a war against the planet.
We only have a decade left to mitigate the worst effects of global warming, and Putin’s war is diverting international attention and resources from this priority. This is what Friedman writes:
“There was no good time for Vladimir Putin’s unprovoked, idiotic invasion of Ukraine. But this is a uniquely bad time. Because it’s diverting worldwide attention and resources needed to mitigate climate change — during what may be the last decade when we still have a chance to manage the climate extremes that are now unavoidable and avoid those that could become unmanageable.”[1]
Does Putin care? Not a bit.
But one does not need to go halfway around the world to discover such men. Right here at home we have Alabama Senator Tommy Tuberville on Black people: “They’re pro-crime,” Tuberville said. “They want crime. They want crime because they want to take over what you got. They want to control what you have. They want reparations because they think the people that do the crime are owed that.”[2]
This is not just a dog whistle. It’s a bullhorn. And nary a Republican colleague has called him out on this racism. “I might have chosen other words,” one halting milquetoast mumbles.
This is what’s destroying America, dragging us down into a cesspool of shame. No, you don’t have to travel far to encounter such. We have plenty of our own homegrown piggy guys.
We idolize them. Is there any other reason such antisemitic idiotic narcissists as Kayne West get such good press and such huge followings? – with his rant about going “Death Con 3 On Jewish People?” This is America??? Sounds more like a Nazi thug out of the 30s. Or, maybe it is America — Charlottesville, USA, August 2017? Appalling and disgusting.[3]
That poor, indigent woman going up against a judge who couldn’t be bothered would have instantly recognized these guys. All cut from the same cloth of self-centered entitlement.
Folks, that’s why we have unions — so women are not subjected to such atrocious behavior in the workplace. So, there is redress, justice.
It should be noted that among the staunches opponents to Putin’s ware are several prime ministers of the Nordic countries – all women. They know what it is to have had to take a bunch of crap from ignorant, sexist men. And they aren’t going to take it from Putin.
The prime minister of Estonia, Kaja Kallas’s speaking for her nation: “When it comes to Putin then, of course he is a war criminal and must be prosecuted for the crimes of aggression he has committed.”[4]
“And you shouldn’t be negotiating with terrorists because it pays off for them. We will pay a higher price in the long term,” she added.”
When asked about an “offramp” for Putin in Ukraine, Finnish Prime Minister Sanna Marin said there’s only one off-ramp for Putin.[5]
“The way out of the conflict is for Russia to leave Ukraine,” Marin told a reporter on Friday. “That’s the way out of the conflict.” She bluntly added, “He can leave.” Whereupon she turned heel and walked off.
She would have understood what that woman supplicant before this judge would have had to contend with. That is the struggle that engages God. And will throughout this dark night of war. Is there blessing to be had? We’ll see. Ukrainians are learning what all peoples have learned when emerging from subjugation: Freedom’s not free. These brave people continue to keep hope alive through the missiles and the atrocities inflicted upon them. In the subways singing hymns and other songs, they do indeed keep hope alive. And also, for the rest of us who join them through the miracle of electronic media.
I close with two women, courageous women who have fortified my hope this week. One is Cori Bush. She came to my attention when I saw her on TV camped out on the steps of Congress all night, urging her fellow representatives to address homelessness, addiction and marginalization. She herself had been homeless at various times in her life. Probably one of the very few congressional members to know such extreme circumstances. Her new book, Forerunner, is her life story. I know now the source of her strength – she is very clear about from where her help comes. It from the Lord who has taken up residence in her heart.[6]
Get that book. It’s not an easy read given the trauma Cori has endured over her life. But as a nurse, a pastor, an activist, and now a congresswoman from Missouri, she has endured. She inspires all of us to keep hope alive.
The second woman getting the Last Word is Loretta Lynn, award-winning Country Music gem from Appalachia.
Loretta’s songs were stories of heartbreak, betrayal, addiction and poverty.
Long ago as a little guy I’d turn on the old tube radio and listen to these songs. One night my father came in and when he heard what I was listening to, yelled: “Turn that off. You don’t want to be a G-D hillbilly, do you!” This was the West Virginia culture he had rejected.
Much later in life, I developed an appreciation for the stories these songs told – the pathos, the deep longing, the blessing of a culture that tied people together at the deepest levels.
Loretta Lynn endured it all, growing up in a backwoods holler in Tennessee. Married at the age of fifteen to a sometimes-faithful husband who struggled with alcoholism. Mother of three of her six children before she was twenty. Yet she prevailed. Her people have prevailed.
Her signature song, “Coal Miner’s Daughter” was an earnest prayer which brought hope to millions all across the nation’s airwaves. Loretta gets The Last Word.
“Well, I was born a coal miner’s daughter
In a cabin, on a hill in Butcher Holler
We were poor but we had love,
That’s the one thing that daddy made sure of
He’d shovel coal to make a poor man’s dollar
“My daddy worked all night in the Van Lear coal mines
All day long in the field a hoin’ corn
Mommy rocked the babies at night
And read the Bible by the coal oil light
And ever’ thing would start all over come break of morn[7] All we can say for her and for all these persistent, in-your-face women is, “Thanks be to God and Blessed be!” You have “struggled with God and with humans.” By the grace of God, You will prevail. Amen and amen!
[1] Thomas Friedman, “Putin’s War is a Crime Against the Planet,” New York Times, September 27, 2022.
[2] Eugene Scott, “Democrats Call Sen. Tuberville’s Comments About Crime and Reparations Racist,” Washington Post, October 11, 2022.
[3] Cole Delbyck, “Kanye West Tweet About Going ‘Death Con 3 On Jewish People’ Removed By Twitter,” HuffPost, October 9, 2022.
4 Astha Saxena, “Europe’s new ‘Iron Lady’ Kaja Kallas calls on West to not negotiate with ‘terrorist’ Putin,” Express, October 9, 2022.
5 Nick Mordowanec, “Video of Finnish PM Explaining Putin’s ‘Way Out’ of Ukraine Viewed 4M Times,” Newsweek, October 7, 2022.
[6] Cori Bush, The Forerunner (New York: Knopf, 2022).
[7] Loretta Lynn, “Coal Miner’s Daughter,” written and sung by her and various artists, released in 1970. The song became a number one hit on the Billboard Hot Country Singles chart later that year.
October 16, 2022, 19 Pentecost, Proper 24
“Do Not Lose Hope”
The Rev. Dr. John C. Forney, St. Francis Episcopal Mission
Genesis 32:22-31; Psalm 121; 2 Timothy 3:14-4:5; Luke 18:1-6
